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Wednesday, April 15, 2026

50th Wedding Anniversary, Grandson’s Poonal – Musical Extravaganza in the bargain

“Sundara Mama and Lalitha Mami…” we heard the vibrant voice as we answered the call in the usual speaker-mode. “This is Lekshmi… and Natarajan.” 

“From Geneva?” I guessed. “No, not this time. We are in Thrissur. Mahesh wants to celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary coinciding with his son’s poonal,” Lekshmi corrected. 

“It will be a privilege,” she continued, “if you two could attend.”  Our plea of my mobility restrictions and a four-day stay in Thrissur fell into deaf ears. “We thought it would be a sort of Ram-Bharat Milap, but after 20 years,” argued Lekshmi. No doubt we had the best of time together during our tenure in Switzerland.

Mahesh, their only son, is a man of many parts – a loving husband, an affectionate father, a caring son and a person with an amiable disposition. To me, however, he strikes as Shravan Kumar in Ramayana – so devoted to his parents without simultaneously failing in his other obligations.  It was he who was behind organizing the 50th marriage anniversary of his parents. The mornings were devoted to spiritual activities - 108 learned pundits invoking the blessings of God on one morning, and 108 ladies reciting Lalitha Sahasranamam the next morning, etc. the evenings witnessed a gala musical extravaganza. 

Yes, musical extravaganza of the first order. On day one it was Manjapra Mohan enthralling the audience with Ayyappa songs. Three hours is a tall order, but he kept listeners’ attention unhindered. No wonder he is hailed Namasankeertanam Chakravarthy.  I enjoyed the best his number ‘Entha Malai Sevithalum, Thangamalai Vaibhogam, Engum naan Kandathillaye, Ayyappa…’ 

Day two was marked by Nadaswaram recital by a Haridwaramangalam Padma Shri Dr Palanivel and his team. Given the high decibel that go with Nadaswaram-Tavil performance, it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, more so for a longer duration. But not so in this instance. The team kept the audience captive. 

The famous violinist Padma Shri Mysore Manjunath and his team of percussionists, each one with a long list of his own accomplishments  took charge of day three. Thus, together they made the audience listen to them with rapt attention. Aside his professional acumen, Manjunath had the gift of the gab which kept the audience in good humour. Thus, as they say in North, it was sone pe suhaga.

The stay also helped me update myself with Geneva friends. After retirement Lekshmi and Natarajan keep themselves busy with charitable work – both with material supply and serving ready meals. Natarajan continues to teach Sanskrit. Murali and Prema enjoy life to the brim. During their couple of visits to India annually they financially help two or three girls from poor families get married. Siva and Bhuvana, the quiet-couple, returned to their base in Chennai a few years ago. They are happily settled in Mylapore. 

Mahesh is a mridangam artist in his own right. Kritika, his wife, an engineer by qualification, is a Bharata Natyam artist. Their son Shreyas did a solo on mridangam when his elder sister played violin during Dr Manjunath’s concert. It was very well received. Well rooted, in other words. 

As though all this is not enough, one early morning, at the persistence of the lady of the house we made an impromptu visit to Guruvayoor (45 minutes drive) disregarding the fact that it was a second Saturday with unmanageable crowd. Even the Rs 1000 ticket had a serpentine queen. Luckily, we had darshan quickly. Yes, for the first time my walking stick performed a little more duty than it was supposed to. A police officer on duty noticed it; he moved us away from the queue and took us up to the place where all queues converge to have Lord Guruvayoorappan’s darshan - which we had in full measure.  I told you everything is preordained. Man proposes, God disposes.

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Sunday, April 5, 2026

To Relocate or not to. That is the Question

Any major move calls for weighing its pros and cons; more so when it is contemplated way past one’s prime.  

Two Paripalana Retirement Home families that I know of returned to Bangalore for different reasons. One, when he was hospitalized, his son in Bangalore told him that it would be difficult for him to make it to Coimbatore often and suggested his parents to move back to base.

The other responded in Shakespearean style, “Not that I like Coimbatore less, but that I love Bangalore more.” 

Against this backdrop we have equal number of families who moved permanently to Paripalana. One argued, “You know we were right in front of Forum mall, and just ten steps away from Konanakunte Metro station in Bangalore. Regardless we took the plunge for the Retirement home after a few last-minute back and forth stays in both the places.”

The other family had a sprawling house in a calm and serene locality where pollution-free air is the chief attraction. Still they decided to move here.

Comparisons are invidious. One can’t help doing it at times. In our case a permanent shift from Bangalore will mean moving from a 900-apartment complex, built in eight towers of 20 to 26 storeys where community living takes the cake. Name any festival, and it is celebrated – Ekatva, Rajyotsava (birth of Karnataka), all religious and regional festivals such as Onam, Christmas, Holi and what have you.

Next to our gated community is Madheswara temple on a hillock where mass catering for every festival is the name of the game. Turahalli forest, declared thus by an act of legislation, borders ours. Precisely why our complex is named Sobha Forest View. Chirping of birds and dancing of peacocks in merriment greet us every morning. 

“Small is beautiful,” on the contrary, describes aptly, as it is meant to, the life in Paripalana 3. Lord Guruvayurappan presides over the complex enjoying the best of breeze from the adjacent coconut grove, leaving the rest for the residents. In the last ten days that we are here we have been a party to Rama Navami, Panguni Uttiram celebrations, Lalitha Sahasranamam, Vishnu Sahasranaman, Pradosham Rudram chants, and practice sessions of Bhajan, Narayaneeyam, Bhagavatam…, and a day trip in two Tempo Travels to a Kerala temple.

You need to cover just four floors in the lift to reach to the ground, and not descend to earth from the 19th floor to buy vegetables. Sorry, no need for vegetables here. You just walk to the Dining Hall three times a day and enjoy your breakfast, lunch and dinner – all announced a week in advance. That allows one to take a call on whether to skip a particular menu and order from a private lady caterer nearby. 

Yes, the list is endless – on both sides. It is a tie, to sum up. But the scale at times tilts slightly towards the Retirement Home. The reason? Charity begins at home. I have enjoyed retirement for more than two decades, but the lady of the house never had a moment of respite. My retirement has only added to her woes, with my occasional hints: ‘how about a little second coffee - or even buttermilk?’ Or, “it’s raining outside, how about frying some pakodas to go with it?”  Otherwise during my working days, once off to work at 7.30 am, she had all the time for herself till 5.30 pm. 

“Be that so, but do you necessarily have to relocate just to give her respite,” confront me those who want us to stay back in Bangalore. “You can engage a cook, just order vegetables online, and enjoy the dishes of your choice,” they argue. 

As confused as ever.

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